A long time ago, in a land not so far away…I used to write blog articles here to help families and educators understand the Montessori approach and how to apply it in their own homes. Then, toddlerhood and moving back and forth across the State happened. 😉
I’m settling in and finding my groove back in our amazing home amongst the gumtrees, and am winding my way back to one of my great loves, writing. It may take me a while to write the booklets I envisage as I snatch moments here and there between snack time and nap time, rearranging sticky notes, and recording moments of inspiration with voice recordings on the drives between Montessori Playgroup and toddler yoga… But, I just know these booklets are finally happening! So here’s a snippet which I hope brings you some peace and inspiration today.
All I really want is for you to know that your child is not ‘the one’. I can feel that many, many mothers almost believe it when they tentatively let me know their child is ‘the one’. They almost believe their child is ‘the one’ who hits other kids, ‘the one’ who throws toys, ‘the one’ who won’t play with other children, ‘the one’ who still wants mummies milk throughout the night, or ‘the one’ who doesn’t know how to share. Underneath it I can see that they are worried that their child is ‘the one’ but feel torn because they don’t want to believe that their child could actually be the bully, be the rough kid, be the antisocial kid, be the clingy kid, or be the selfish kid. Well you know what? They’re not. They aren’t being ‘the one’, they are simply doing one of those things. Put another way, those behaviours aren’t who they are being, they are only what they are doing. Your child is doing the behaviour to meet a need. By understanding that need, you can help your child meet it in an appropriate, and peaceful way.
And so, I’m working on a booklet which helps parents and educators see past behaviours to really understand what need their child is trying to meet, and find ways to help children meet it appropriately. I am going to explain what it means for a child to develop peacefully according to nature’s plan, and how we can create environments around children which will allow this development to occur…which of course I like to call ‘peaceful rooms’. 🙂
Have you ever felt like you might have ‘the one’?